Monday, January 2nd, 2012
Passive – aggression is a deliberate and masked way of expressing covert feelings of anger.
This pattern destroys the integrity of a relationship and is one of the hardest patterns to transform.
Monday, December 12th, 2011
Arguing works well for a court of law but not in your relationship.
For those of you with argumentative personalities you will want to read this post. You know who you are…. Read more »
Monday, November 21st, 2011
Do you transition easily back into connection or do you find yourself acting like a wilful toddler? Read more »
Monday, October 24th, 2011
Risk, resilience and a good enough childhood – not a great one, just good enough.
Check out the the article, Radical Romance, by Cathleen Medwick if you are interested in a deeper exploration of the purpose of romantic love.
Monday, October 10th, 2011
This is how you tell whether a new partner is ready and worth the “risk”.
Check out the article, How I Learned To Stop Blaming The Ex And Became A Man, by Elliot Katz.
Refreshing insight and candor from the male perspective.
Wednesday, September 14th, 2011
This is the path to an energized partnership.
The fact that you see things differently is a strength – not a weakness. Read more »
Monday, June 27th, 2011
Do you hold your breath and hope for the best or is there a way to determine if you are in a relationship that has substance, the kind of love that you can build a stable future on.
I have broken this down into 4 statements to consider. If you can honestly say that you believe these statements then your relationship is likely to thrive. Take the test… Read more »
Monday, June 20th, 2011
An emotional affair can be as devastating to a relationship as a sexual affair. Secrecy and deception are the deal breakers.
Emotional affairs are easy to deny, you can rationalize that there is no sex involved and keep yourself guilt free.
Check out this article on Oprah’s website, Emotional Affairs 101, for some concrete signs that you are having an emotional affair.
Monday, May 16th, 2011
When it comes to our relationships there is a world of difference between these two experiences.
To feel powerful people often resort to manipulation and coercion.
To be powerful is to come from a position of self-knowledge and be able to regulate your emotions.
Clients enter into therapy because they feel powerless in some area of their life. Read more »
Monday, May 9th, 2011
Dr. John Gottman makes the bold statement that he can predict with 95% accuracy whether couples will stay together or not.
His predictions are partly based on the presence of four destructive communication patterns: contempt, criticism, stone-walling and defensiveness. Read more »
Monday, May 2nd, 2011
Plenty of miserable couples stay together forever.
But it looks like this trend may be changing.
NY Times columnist, Tara Parker Pope, wrote a great article, The Happy Marriage is the “Me” Marriage. People are looking for partnerships that make their lives more interesting and they want to experience personal growth, which Parker Pope terms “self-expansion”.
If your partner is helping you become a better person then that deepens happiness and satisfaction.
Check out the article and learn why it is important to have novel and exciting experiences together.
Monday, April 25th, 2011
Are you addicted to negativity? Are you a fault-finder or a love-finder? Read more »
Monday, April 4th, 2011
Learn about the “Masters” and “Disasters” of relationships.
Check out the article, The Top Five Signs That You Are Headed For Divorce. Watch the videotapes of the research couples demonstrating the behaviours that lead to divorce. Can you see yourself in any of these couples?
Saturday, August 7th, 2010
This is not for the faint of heart.
I hear many of my clients say: “I can’t believe I do this to myself over and over again. What is wrong with me? Why can’t I find someone to love me?” Read more »
