Monday, August 29th, 2011
Try to win and you will both lose – every time, guaranteed.
There is one simple idea that can transform your relationship: Be more interested in understanding your partner than in winning an argument.
Embrace this principle, save yourself heartache and massive counselling or legal bills. Read more »
Monday, August 1st, 2011
Here is what not to say or do when your partner is upset…. Read more »
Monday, December 13th, 2010
IMAGO Therapist and innovator Hedy Schleifer was invited to give a prestigious TED Talk on the Power of Connection.
If you want deeper insight into IMAGO Couples Dialogue, this is for you.
Check out the video after the jump:
Monday, November 8th, 2010
Apology is an art form, one which can be learned. There are some fundamental ingredients which form the basis of a genuine, non-defensive, responsible apology. Read more »
Monday, November 1st, 2010
Before beginning my training as an IMAGO Relationship Therapist I would hear this from my couples.
Couples would leave the sessions with insight about their relationship dynamic, ideas about what to do differently but feeling ill equipped to change their behaviour in a tense moment.
I practiced traditional couples therapy for well over a decade before beginning my training in Imago Relationship Therapy. The differences in outcome for couples has been amazing! Couples are given new skills, new ways of listening and relating.
What does the term IMAGO mean? What is IMAGO Relationship Therapy? Here is the Coles Notes version… Read more »
Monday, September 20th, 2010
This is the dream that couples are chasing after. The nightmare begins when attempts to “support” our partner become controlling gestures.
How does support get confused with control? Read more »
Monday, July 12th, 2010
Taking your shoes off means that you have to suspend your world view, cross over the bridge into your partner’s world and imagine what they might be feeling.
All you can do is guess. It is the intention to try and understand what your partner is experiencing that makes the impact. Read more »
Friday, July 2nd, 2010
Let go of the attachment of being right and suddenly your mind is more open. You can benefit from the unique viewpoints of others without being crippled and limited by your own judgment.
When we move away from the need to be right and the necessity to have our perspective dominate the relationship then we are ready to learn the art of validation. Read more »
Tuesday, June 29th, 2010
“Did I get that?” “Is there more to that?”
Imagine hearing that from your partner when you are upset and angry. Read more »
Thursday, June 3rd, 2010
We all have patterned ways of reacting when feeling threatened, inadequate or fearful, which sabotage the possibility of connection and clarity.
We bring these patterned responses into our relationships. Often the learning begins in our family of origin. Read more »
