Monday, December 12th, 2011
Arguing works well for a court of law but not in your relationship.
For those of you with argumentative personalities you will want to read this post. You know who you are…. Read more »
Monday, August 29th, 2011
Try to win and you will both lose – every time, guaranteed.
There is one simple idea that can transform your relationship: Be more interested in understanding your partner than in winning an argument.
Embrace this principle, save yourself heartache and massive counselling or legal bills. Read more »
Monday, August 1st, 2011
Here is what not to say or do when your partner is upset…. Read more »
Monday, May 9th, 2011
Dr. John Gottman makes the bold statement that he can predict with 95% accuracy whether couples will stay together or not.
His predictions are partly based on the presence of four destructive communication patterns: contempt, criticism, stone-walling and defensiveness. Read more »
Monday, April 25th, 2011
Are you addicted to negativity? Are you a fault-finder or a love-finder? Read more »
Monday, April 4th, 2011
Learn about the “Masters” and “Disasters” of relationships.
Check out the article, The Top Five Signs That You Are Headed For Divorce. Watch the videotapes of the research couples demonstrating the behaviours that lead to divorce. Can you see yourself in any of these couples?
Monday, March 7th, 2011
There are certain habits that differentiate couples that will succeed from couples that are destined to fail.
If you want to be successful you will have to have these interpersonal skills. Read more »
Monday, February 28th, 2011
Do you want to know why your reactions to certain conflicts are way out of range with the actual situation?
Understanding the basics of brain functioning can help you make sense of what is happening in your relationship. Read more »
Monday, February 7th, 2011
This phrase struck me on a deeper level after reading a copy of a love letter sent to me by a colleague.
Take the time to read it. I guarantee you will look at your relationship in a different light. Read more »
Monday, January 17th, 2011
You took out the garbage and put down your BlackBerry but what she really wanted was a hug…that would have made the difference.
Your emotional love language and the language of your partner may be as different as French and Mandarin. Read more »
Tuesday, January 11th, 2011
Monday, December 13th, 2010
IMAGO Therapist and innovator Hedy Schleifer was invited to give a prestigious TED Talk on the Power of Connection.
If you want deeper insight into IMAGO Couples Dialogue, this is for you.
Check out the video after the jump:
Tuesday, June 29th, 2010
“Did I get that?” “Is there more to that?”
Imagine hearing that from your partner when you are upset and angry. Read more »
Thursday, June 3rd, 2010
We all have patterned ways of reacting when feeling threatened, inadequate or fearful, which sabotage the possibility of connection and clarity.
We bring these patterned responses into our relationships. Often the learning begins in our family of origin. Read more »
