July 12th, 2010
Taking your shoes off means that you have to suspend your world view, cross over the bridge into your partner’s world and imagine what they might be feeling.
All you can do is guess. It is the intention to try and understand what your partner is experiencing that makes the impact. Read more »
July 2nd, 2010
Let go of the attachment of being right and suddenly your mind is more open. You can benefit from the unique viewpoints of others without being crippled and limited by your own judgment.
When we move away from the need to be right and the necessity to have our perspective dominate the relationship then we are ready to learn the art of validation. Read more »
June 29th, 2010
“Did I get that?” “Is there more to that?”
Imagine hearing that from your partner when you are upset and angry. Read more »
June 3rd, 2010
We all have patterned ways of reacting when feeling threatened, inadequate or fearful, which sabotage the possibility of connection and clarity.
We bring these patterned responses into our relationships. Often the learning begins in our family of origin. Read more »
July 13th, 2009
We use this word a lot. What does it really mean? How is a respectful relationship created?
In the first couples session I used to ask “What needs to change in your relationship?” Read more »
