Archive for the ‘IMAGO and Relationships’ Category
Monday, August 16th, 2010
What do you see when you look in the mirror?
When you alter your relationship with yourself, your external world will be altered accordingly.
The issues in our relationships are mirroring back to us our internal issues with ourselves. If you are having difficulty sustaining intimate, nurturing and committed relationships: the place to look is your relationship with yourself.
In what ways am I failing to love, nurture and commit to myself? Read more »
Tags: Mirroring, Relationship
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Saturday, August 7th, 2010
Can you release unconscious relationship patterns?
This is not for the faint of heart.
I hear many of my clients say: “I can’t believe I do this to myself over and over again. What is wrong with me? Why can’t I find someone to love me?” Read more »
Tags: Imago, Relationship, Relationship Patterns
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Monday, July 12th, 2010
Pointing fingers doesn’t help.
“Whenever you are pointing your finger at someone, notice that there are always three fingers pointing back at you.”
Great quote! Keep this visual in mind next time you find yourself lapsing into making excuses and blaming others for your choices.
Stop and ask yourself, “What is it that I am unwilling to be responsible for in this situation?” Read more »
Tags: Blame, Relationship, Shame
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Monday, July 12th, 2010
Take your shoes off and transform your relationship
Taking your shoes off means that you have to suspend your world view, cross over the bridge into your partner’s world and imagine what they might be feeling.
All you can do is guess. It is the intention to try and understand what your partner is experiencing that makes the impact. Read more »
Tags: Empathy, Imago Dialogue, Relationship
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Friday, July 2nd, 2010
You can be right or you can be in relationship:
Take your pick.
Let go of the attachment of being right and suddenly your mind is more open. You can benefit from the unique viewpoints of others without being crippled and limited by your own judgment.
When we move away from the need to be right and the necessity to have our perspective dominate the relationship then we are ready to learn the art of validation. Read more »
Tags: Imago Dialogue, Relationship, Validation
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Tuesday, June 29th, 2010
So, what I heard you say is…
…that every time I show up late you feel that I don’t love you and that you are very low on my priority list.
“Did I get that?” “Is there more to that?”
Imagine hearing that from your partner when you are upset and angry. Read more »
Tags: Communication, Imago Dialogue, Mirroring, Relationship
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Thursday, June 3rd, 2010
Under stress, communication often breaks down.
People end up doing and saying a lot of unpleasant and nasty things to their partner.
We all have patterned ways of reacting when feeling threatened, inadequate or fearful, which sabotage the possibility of connection and clarity.
We bring these patterned responses into our relationships. Often the learning begins in our family of origin. Read more »
Tags: Communication, Imago Dialogue, Relationship
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Monday, July 13th, 2009
Listen to Aretha Franklin
She captured the essence of what we are all looking for in our relationships – respect.
We use this word a lot. What does it really mean? How is a respectful relationship created?
In the first couples session I used to ask “What needs to change in your relationship?” Read more »
Tags: Relationship, Respect
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