Archive for May, 2011
Monday, May 30th, 2011
A compelling article on affairs from the NY Times:
This is really worth the read, particularly if you are contemplating having an affair.
The author, Wendy Plump, explores the impact of an affair from both sides, from her experiences as the cheating spouse and the betrayed lover.
According to Wendy: “You will be pulled between two poles, one of obligation and responsibility, the other of pleasure and escape, and the stress of these two opposing forces will tear you apart.”
Tags: Behaviour, Crisis, Relationship
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Monday, May 23rd, 2011
Relationship decisions can be agonizing.
Deciding whether or not to keep trying is hard, particularly when there are children involved.
Should You Stay or Should You Go? a Huffington Post article by Christine Carter PhD, describes four types of relationship problems in an attempt to simplify the decision-making process.
Check out her article, it may help you make sense of your situation.
Tags: Acceptance, Change, Crisis
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Monday, May 16th, 2011
Would you rather feel powerful or be powerful?
When it comes to our relationships there is a world of difference between these two experiences.
To feel powerful people often resort to manipulation and coercion.
To be powerful is to come from a position of self-knowledge and be able to regulate your emotions.
Clients enter into therapy because they feel powerless in some area of their life. Read more »
Tags: Behaviour, Change, Relationship Patterns
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Monday, May 9th, 2011
Which relationships will survive?
Which will falter, fail or self-destruct? We know the answer!
Dr. John Gottman makes the bold statement that he can predict with 95% accuracy whether couples will stay together or not.
His predictions are partly based on the presence of four destructive communication patterns: contempt, criticism, stone-walling and defensiveness. Read more »
Tags: Behaviour, Communication, Relationship Patterns
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Monday, May 2nd, 2011
A lasting marriage does not always mean a happy marriage.
Plenty of miserable couples stay together forever.
But it looks like this trend may be changing.
NY Times columnist, Tara Parker Pope, wrote a great article, The Happy Marriage is the “Me” Marriage. People are looking for partnerships that make their lives more interesting and they want to experience personal growth, which Parker Pope terms “self-expansion”.
If your partner is helping you become a better person then that deepens happiness and satisfaction.
Check out the article and learn why it is important to have novel and exciting experiences together.
Tags: Connection, Relationship, Relationship Patterns
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