What Did I Do?

Monday, December 27th, 2010

Your partner is angry and and you ask, “What Did I Do?”

Your tone is a dead give away whether you are defensive or curious. Do you respond or react?

So which will get you to a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner? I know, that question is a set up, the answer is obvious. And the answer is always the harder route. Read more »

Tags: Anger, Relationship
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Are You a Prisoner of Your Own Thoughts?

Monday, December 20th, 2010

Put a name to the impulses that direct your actions!

Clients are always relieved to know that there is a more accurate explanation for unhealthy patterns than the explanation they give themselves.

Usually the personal explanation is punitive, self-deprecatory, not inspiring or enlightening. Read more »

Tags: Life Traps, Schema Therapy, Thoughts and Therapy
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The Power of Connection

Monday, December 13th, 2010

This video is amazing!

Take the time to watch. You are guaranteed to learn from this inspirational talk.

IMAGO Therapist and innovator Hedy Schleifer was invited to give a prestigious TED Talk on the Power of Connection.

If you want deeper insight into IMAGO Couples Dialogue, this is for you.

Check out the video after the jump:

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Tags: Communication, Connection, Imago Dialogue, Relationship, TED Talk
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Change One Little Word

Monday, December 6th, 2010

It pays to think before you speak.

You can hear and feel the difference between “I need you to pick up your socks” and “You are so #@!! lazy”.

One version is load and shoot and the other is artful diplomacy.  The art of  speaking so other people listen can be dependent on the change of just one little word.

It is amazing how the choice of a particular word can turn a receptive partner into a defensive, antagonized person. Read more »

Tags: Change, Relationship, We
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